The other day I was telling someone a story about something that had happen to me years ago. As I was getting to the part where I was the victim I realized “wow I’m still telling that story as if I WAS the victim”
If you have not heard of “reframing” or “cognitive restructuring” I would look into it. There is a lot of good work being done with it.
Then I thought, because of those “stories” I am already expecting something. In almost every situation I find I have some sort of expectation. Meaning that I still look through those “rose colored glasses” or whatever color glasses my stories happen to tint them. And, because of that, I am expecting some sort of something, good bad or indifferent.
Corinne calls those glasses BS. (our Belief System through which we filter everything.)
I do not mean to, sometimes it just happens if I’m not being open to the moment being new (if that makes sense). Then I realized I’m not just expecting something because of my BS, I’m accepting it as well.
Since then I’ve been looking at “What am I expecting? What am I accepting?” and “Is this the story I want to tell?” So, knowing I can’t get more then I will accept. I’m working on not expecting anything and accepting only what is best for me.
Whew! Epiphanies come when you least expect them. I’ll accept that.
What were you expecting?
Well, whatever it was I hope you will accept a gift from us here at Edge Of Change. It is Corinne’s birthday this month and in Hobbit tradition she wanted to give everyone a birthday present. Not that I’m calling her a Hobbit just that she really liked those stories.