Tips for Managing Change

Throughout life, change will always be our constant companion.  We will have changes that we make happen, and changes that are thrust upon us and are out of our control.

Despite its inevitability, change still makes us feel anxious and uncertain.  It’s not that we need less change in our lives, instead, we get to learn to adjust our perspective about change so that we can effectively manage it when it happens.

Here are a few tips for handling life’s changes with grace and ease:

  1. Realize that change causes stress.  Therefore to minimize the stress, identify what you can control, what you can influence and what you cannot.
  2. See the change as an opportunity rather than a bad situation.
  3. Keep your eye on your long-term goals.  The circumstances of the present situation can distract you from your goals. So remind yourself that things will be different once you get through the change.
  4. Be open to what can be learned from the change, and ask yourself “What can this experience teach me?”

The one change you can expect is that things are going to change. Using these few simple strategies can help you smoothly navigate your next change.

To your success and happiness

Leadership: It’s all in your mind

Do you think of yourself as a leader?  Do you enjoy leading?  As you were growing up, did people tell you that you had natural leadership qualities?

If you do not see yourself as a leader, know that you are leading and probably not even knowing it.  Why?  Because we are all leaders simply because of our influence.  Whatever you believe, think, value, feel, or say influences your behavior.  These are all the result of your mindset and your mindset affects the impact you have.

This attitude determines much of our behavior, and our behavior produces specific results.  If we are the leaders of our lives, in our work, and in our relationships, the results we get matter very much.  Are we getting the results or having the impact we want, or are we experiencing unwanted results and outcomes?  By looking at the relationship between our mindset, our behavior, and our impact we can integrate all three components in an effective and satisfying way.  We can incorporate leadership qualities and engage in leadership behaviors that generate the results we really want.

Your impact may be subtle or it may be profound; it may be small or it may be big; it may be obvious or not so obvious; it may be positive, neutral, or negative.

Observe your impact as it’s reflected back to you, observe your actions as you carry them out, and observe your mindset as it fills your thoughts and shapes your attitudes.  With this model you have an ever-ready tool to use any time that you are not getting results you desire.

That’s a tool worth keeping in your toolbox, wouldn’t you say?

To your success and happiness,
Corinne McElroy

What are you Attracting?

There’s a spring in Marissa’s step, and she simply radiates positive, upbeat, can-do energy. She’s “in the flow.” Good things continue to happen in her work and personal life with seeming effortlessness.

Contrast this with Kelly, who puts in twice as many hours at work-super-long, hard hours every day-yet rarely achieves what she’s striving so hard to create.

What’s the difference? Hint: It has to do with Marissa’s ability to attract what she wants. However, this kind of attraction has nothing to do with looks.

Rather, it’s about Marissa’s ability to attract abundance by living in a way that’s in tune with her purpose, her passions, her most vital and alive self.

The law of attraction. It’s not just some woo-woo theory, it’s scientific: like matter attracts like. It’s similar to a radio broadcast: when tuned into a particular station, you will only hear (attract) the frequency of radio waves that match that station’s signal. And when that happens, everything seems easy, not a struggle.

Once you change the way you are inside, the outer world changes,” writes Joe Vitale, author of the recent best-seller The Attractor Factor.

Vitale is one of dozens of authors who write persuasively on the subject, as is Sonia Choquette, author of Your Heart’s Desire: Creating the Life You Really Want. Most suggest the same key ingredients for attracting into your life what you want:

* Get clear on what you want and why. It’s not enough to know what you do not want. It is much easier to get what you want when know what it is that you want! Getting crystal clear is where the “magic” of attraction all begins.

* Imagine it. See it as happening. “Conscious change is brought about by the two qualities inherent in consciousness: attention and intention,” writes Deepak Chopra. “Attention energizes, and intention transforms. Whatever you put your attention on will grow stronger in your life.”

* Keep yourself receptive. Enjoy life, play, relax have FUN. Stress, exhaustion, sluggishness, etc., can all interfere with attraction. In the radio station analogy, they become the “static” that interfere with the “frequencies” of that which you’re wanting to attract. Though taking a day off to relax rather than working frantically may seem as difficult as stepping off a precipice, it can be just what is needed. At times we get to slow down to speed up.

* Listen to your intuitive nudges. Attraction isn’t about sitting back and waiting for it all to come to you. Action is always required to meet goals and make dreams come true. Vitale writes: “Your job is to ask for what you want, and then to act on the inner nudges you get to do things, like make phone calls, write letters, visit a certain person, or whatever.” Don’t worry if your “nudges” do not make immediate sense. The “why” will reveal itself later.

* Surrender control. This means to let go and trust. Let go of the particular way in which things will happen. Let go of fear, doubt, worry and disappointment. Let go of the notion of struggle. Trust that the outcome will be just right.

So whether it’s a job promotion, landing that huge client or buying a new house, claim your dream.

It’s yours if you want it!

To your success and happiness